The Mommy Wars

I picked up a copy of "The Mommy Wars" at the library a few weeks ago... just on an impulse... and now it's dreadfully overdue, but I can't take it back until I'm done. I'm also planning on buying multiple copies for my mommy friends. It's a wonderful series of essays about staying home versus going back to work versus working from home.... all kind of mommy options... and the struggle to a)find the one that works for you and b)figure out how to defend that to everyone else. I'm a little in a rut lately, and I need to change my job(s) to better accomodate my family... but I also need my own time for crafting and creating. It just makes me a better wife and mom. And yet it's so hard to defend to hubby, peers, co-workers, etc. If I stayed home full-time, I could certainly spend more time with the kids... but I know first-hand that the house might not look any better. How can you clean while your kids are playing and needing one-to-one time and supervision? And if I gave up work entirely, there would not be enough money to afford some daycare- which is when I've been getting some house work done or stealing a few moments in the studio. Sometimes it feels like no part of my life is getting it's full due.  *Sigh* 

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[Mags]

Hi Jenny, It's a very long time since I was in your situation and it's such a problem knowing what's best isn't it?
I was going to stay home, but an ideal job came along and it was too good to miss and my youngest son said. Great everyone goes out in the morning now. He was 4 then and obviously felt it wasn't fair that I could stay home all day. But from choice, that is certainly what I would have done. I do hope you manage to make some 'me' time. We all need it to keep sane.